Couples counseling and EFT
I consider couple's therapy to be a very rich, yet neutral and safe space where you can explore and learn about your relationship and about yourself.
It will provide both of you with a deeper understanding of relational patterns (See EFT approach below) and therefore help you look at alternative choices so that you enter/stay/leave the relationship honoring whom you are individually or as a couple/partnership.
Mindfulness and somatic awareness are also integral to couple's therapy as they inform and illuminate how each person feels emotionally and therefore responds, creating sometimes unconscious patterns within the relationship.
I love to work with couples since the uniqueness of each individual brings "diversity of culture".
Having lived extensively in 3 different countries through out my life, I understand and cherish multicultural settings and partnerships.
Undoubtedly, couple or individual therapy are an opportunity to deepen our relationship to self and others.
It will provide both of you with a deeper understanding of relational patterns (See EFT approach below) and therefore help you look at alternative choices so that you enter/stay/leave the relationship honoring whom you are individually or as a couple/partnership.
Mindfulness and somatic awareness are also integral to couple's therapy as they inform and illuminate how each person feels emotionally and therefore responds, creating sometimes unconscious patterns within the relationship.
I love to work with couples since the uniqueness of each individual brings "diversity of culture".
Having lived extensively in 3 different countries through out my life, I understand and cherish multicultural settings and partnerships.
Undoubtedly, couple or individual therapy are an opportunity to deepen our relationship to self and others.
What is EFT and why I love this approach
EFT stands for Emotionally Focused Therapy.
EFT is a systemic and structured approach to couple therapy formulated by Dr Sue Johnson and Les Greenberg and it is supported by attachment theory and empirical research that validates its effectiveness.
It recognizes the primacy of emotion in organizing both inner experience and key interactional patterns in primary attachment relationships.
Emotion is therefore seen as a powerful agent of change. By exploring and expending clients emotional experience around core attachment needs it helps couples recognize their 'dance' and the places where they get stuck and shift those cycles of negative interactions into new ones that also feel safer.
I love this approach particularly because it is effective with couples and individuals of many cultures and sexual orientations. EFT includes diversities of being.
I also highly respect this approach because, in the therapy room, it looks very simple, natural and non judgmental. Therapy doesn't get lost into the story line. On the contrary, with curiosity and great compassion, EFT helps reveal the places where people get emotionally stuck and disconnected (hurt) due to challenging emotions and past wounds and turns those into new safe ways of relating.
Goals of couple's counseling
- To move from relational distress to a more secure bond between partners. (From disconnection to connection)
- To recognize and re-organize key emotional responses. Partners recognize their 'emotional dance' ( they see how they disconnect and hurt)
- To facilitate a shift in partners' interactional positions so that they can move toward increased accessibility , responsiveness and safe engagement with each other (safe reconnection)